Befriending (BRC)

Confused

If your confusion is about being disoriented please find medical help.

For others continue with these Befriending/Releasing/Choosing (BRC) exercises for Confusion: 

3 step Exercise  – click in order

Step 1 – Befriending your feelings:

If you are confused about how to do things, or what decisions to make go into your feelings of being confused. Befriend your confusion, embrace it, give it a hug like it is an old friend you know well and feel completely comfortable with, someone you love spending time with. Talk to your confusion, either internally or out loud – you can even write about your confusion to become more clear if you would like, and say to yourself 

“There you are confusion, it is okay you are here, I feel you. It makes a lot of sense that I feel this way. Sometimes things are just not clear enough so I get confused. It is ok, I get it, and I will love myself through this with deep kindness, warmth, love, and compassion.”

Then sit with your confusion in true compassion, understanding, and love. If your confusion needs more room because there is too much pressure, give it permission to extend within you, outside of you, and as far as it needs to go in order to release the intensity. Stay with this first step till you start to feel calmer and more comfortable. As a reminder make sure you only show kindness and compassion for your confusion and yourself. It is important to embrace all of you. Stay with this step until you truly have embraced yourself through it. When you feel ready, go to step 2

Step 2 – Release: This step is simple. All you have to do is repeat one sentence over and over again till you actually feel the confusion leaving your body. This is what you say internally or out loud as many times you need to:

I clear and release my feelings of confusion about (name what you are specifically confused about). Or a more specific sentence: I clear and release my feelings of confusion about (name the specific thing you are confused about) from within me and around me. Say it over and over again with the intention of letting it go, and until you feel it is leaving. When you spend some time on releasing the feeling of confusion, and you feel it is actually leaving, you can go to step 3.

 

Step 3 – Choosing: In this step you explore possibilities, positive choices, changing your feelings of confusion with baby steps to positive plan of action, or if all else fails find a positive distraction. It is important for this step to be positive to train your brain to transform negative feelings and thoughts into positive ways of thinking, feelings, actions, and solutions. If you want guidance on how to figure out a different way of approaching feeling confused, please click here for the Brain/Gut exercise.After you make your choice make sure you follow up – Namaste!

 

This is how it works:

The brain is formed by automatic brain paths mostly in the first seven years of life. The paths are developed through repetitive feelings, thoughts, actions, and reactions through experiences in our external and internal environment. Being aware of this means we can also teach the brain to become more conscious of other possibilities and choices different from our repetitive nature.

By using the Befriending, Releasing, Choosing technique, repeatedly, with each negative emotion that diminishes your life, you will slowly change your automatic brain paths. Your brain will slowly become more aware of options and possibilities that can allow you to find positive solutions. In return, self confidence will build inside of you because you are now backed by a creative and solution focused brain. It is important to remember to always do all three steps. The combination of these 3 steps is what will change your brain over time, and therefore your internal happiness.

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