Step 1 – Befriending your feelings: Go into your feelings of jealousy. Befriend them, embrace them, give your feelings a hug like they are an old friend you know well and feel completely comfortable with, someone you love spending time with. Talk to your feelings of jealousy either internally or externally, or you can even write about them if you would like to.  Then say to yourself 

“Everyone at times feels jealous. It makes sense that I feel jealous. I am also aware that I have to lovingly address my jealousy by using it as a source of information to change my own life in a positive way. I get it, and I will love myself through this with deep kindness, warmth, and compassion.”

Then sit with the jealousy in true compassion, understanding, and love. If feeling jealous needs more room because there is too much pressure, give it permission to extend within you, outside of you, and as far as it needs to go in order to release the intensity. Stay with this first step till you start to feel calmer and more comfortable. As a reminder make sure you only show kindness and compassion for your jealousy and yourself. It is important to embrace all of you. Stay with this step until you truly have embraced yourself through it. When you feel ready, go to step 2

Step 2 – Release: This step is simple. All you have to do is repeat one sentence over and over again till you actually feel the jealous feelings leave your body. This is what you say internally or out loud as many times you need to:

I clear and release my feelings of jealousy about (name what you are specifically feeling jealous about). Or a more specific sentence: I clear and release my feelings of jealousy about (name what you are specifically feeling jealousy about) from within me and around me. Say it over and over again with the intention of letting it go, and until you feel it is leaving. When you spend some time on releasing the feeling of jealousy, and you feel it is actually leaving, you can go to step 3.

Step 3 – Choosing: In this step you explore possibilities, positive choices, changing your feelings of jealousy with baby steps to positive plan of action, or if all else fails find a positive distraction. It is important for this step to be positive to train your brain to transform negative feelings and thoughts into positive ways of thinking, feelings, and solutions. If you want guidance on how to figure out a different way of approaching your Jealousy, please click here for the Brain/Gut exercise. After you make your choice make sure you follow up  – Namaste!