Step 1 – Befriending your feelings: Go into your feelings, and befriend them like it is a good old friend you know so well. Talk to yourself internally or out loud with the words

“Oh there you are loneliness, it is ok that you are there. It makes a lot of sense that you are making yourself noticeable.

 If this is because my past told me I wasn’t good enough, loved enough, or important enough for my caregivers (or anything else that happened in your life to feel lonely) it makes sense I feel lonely, since I wasn’t cared for properly. There you are loneliness, trying to sabotage me, and keep me from doing the things in life I could benefit from. It is ok, I get it, and I will love myself through this with deep kindness, warmth, love, and compassion.”

You sit with your feelings of loneliness in true understanding and love. And if the feelings of loneliness need more room because there is too much pressure, give it free space to extend it in order to release the intensity. You can give it space within you, outside of you, and as far as it needs to go. You stay with this first step till you start to feel calmer and more comfortable. As a reminder only kindness and compassion for yourself. This is a step to embrace all of you. When you feel ready, go to step 2

Step 2 – Releasing your feelings: This step is simple. All you have to do is repeat one sentence over and over again till you actually feel it diminishing. You close your eyes and you say internally or out loud as many times you need to:

I clear and release my feelings of loneliness. You can leave it with this or you can use a more specific sentence: I clear my feelings of loneliness from within me and around me. Say it over and over again with the intention of letting it go until you feel the loniless is leaving. When you spend some time releasing the feelings of loneliness, and you feel it is actually leaving, you can go to step 3.

Step 3 – Choosing: In this step you explore possibilities, positive choices, changing your loneliness with baby steps to positive plan of action, or if all else fails find a positive distraction.  It is important that this step is positive to train your brain to transform negative feelings and thoughts to positive ways of thinking, feelings, and solutions. If you want guidance on how to figure out a different way of approaching your Loneliness, please click here for the Brain/Gut exercise. After you made your choice make sure you follow up – Namaste!